Given that the voice one would probably listen to most frequently and with much attention is our own internal voice, it makes sense then to try and ensure that the way this voice 'speaks' to us is as healthy and constructive as possible. So often, we internally and unconsciously talk ourselves down, disempower our own selves!
But given that we've got quite plastic brains, capable of modification, we can actually tackle this and do something about it.
This simple exercise helps move one from using disempowering speech to more empowered speech.
Instead of saying to yourself:
- "I'll try to..." (lacks commitment), you can say "I will..." (takes responsibility)
- "I should ..." (plays the victim), you can say "I'm choosing to..." (takes responsibility)
- "If only..." (avoids problem solving), you can say "Next time..." (problem solving)
- "I can't do ..." (blocks growth), you can say "I'm learning to ..." (encourages growth)
Reach for the sun!